Thursday, June 16, 2016

DATING? What is your “Fantasy-Romance” life with Men?

(a is the first, b is the second, c is the third)
I have read____romance novels

2. When I am with my women friends we spend___much
time talking about men, problems with me/men, sex.
most of the conversations

3. When I go out I dress up to
look good for fun, because I like to look good
to meet with friends who might or might not be perspective dating partners
to meet someone special for dating

4. When I buy perfume, clothes, lingerie, my focus is on
pleasing myself
what I might wear now in the bedroom for my partner
for future partner(s) to please them

5. My romantic relationships usually last
a few weeks or months…after the first sexually part fades,
he or I lose interest
a while…
the sexual part becomes a deeper friendship, and might last
for years.

6. How do I feel IF I’m not in a relationship with a man
lonely, sexually frustrated, lost, missing some part of me,
sometimes feel desperate
ok…but am just waiting for the next man/relationship hoping
“He’s the ONE.”
I’m OK on my own…have my own interests, friends, work

7. After an unsuccessful relationship, have you ever worked on yourself in counseling therapy, 12-step work, meditation?
no, not interested
yes, occasionally.
yes, when I need to change, I seek whatever help I need

Your Fantasy Romance Life with Men is:

a. Not realistic, needy, over dramatic. Seek to develop platonic relationships and friendships with men, so you learn to appreciate them a people first, sexual partners second. Beat a path to professional counseling! (Best to choose a man for counseling who is happily married!)

b. A bit co-dependent but also goal focused. Relax, enjoy your interests, work, and be open to opportunities to develop long term friendships/romance with new men. Counseling might help you develop good self esteem. And partners will be attracted to your confidence.

c. This is the stablest life style with the least fantasy. Men will
perceive you as open but not needy, as interesting and trustworthy. 

                       Friendship first + great sex = commitment.

Ideal: best friend who becomes your romantic partner. Someone who will bring you soup if you are sick or help you fix your computer (whatever his expertise).

(c) Copyright, Barbara Roberts, June, 2016. All rights reserved.

Friday, June 10, 2016

"The two basic qualities of warriors are sustained effort and unbending intent." by Carlos Castaneda | Artist unknown

Wednesday, June 1, 2016

Your NOSE = Wealth/Abundance Potential!

The 2,000 year old system of Face Reading identifies facial features and to each, it attributes a psychological meaning. In my 30 years of teaching this and private practice, after looking at 10,000 faces in over 500 classes, I've made a close study of these features and what they mean. (Please see my book, Face Reading - How to Know Anyone at a Glance (brown book on The NOSE is the area of the face that tells us about WEALTH - financial, spiritual and abundance of all kinds flowing into our lives. Below are some examples of NOSE types and what they mean. Do you have the nose shape that shows you will be wildly $$$ wealthy? The larger the nose, the more abundance may come to you. Example: I had the honor of meeting Mother Theresa of Calcutta in India. She had a beautiful, large nose - for her denoting Spiritual abundance. Bill Cosby also has a huge nose - in his case reflecting financial wealth. A small nose may indicate someone who is good at saving $$ - especially if the nose is bowed (turns outward). The nostrils also show something about spending - If from a front view (at eye level) you can see open nostrils, this means $$ comes to you, and $$ goes from you, but then it comes back also! So budgeting is important. Another similar money spending trait is when you can see the gum line above the teeth when someone smiles easily - this means they 'swing' with money - budget and then spend. If the nose is very high on the face and small, it may mean the person is very frugal. Once a husband and wife came to see me for a private session. The man had this nose structure, and I made the 'frugal' comment to the wife. Believe it or not, she said, "Every night he takes the gas out of the car tank and measures it." ?? A nose that has a 45 degree angle from the bottom going towards the forehead (Tanya Harding, the one who hit Nancy Kerrigan in the skating championship) may mean the person is immature emotionally. A nose that turns up only to a 30 degree angle (from the base of the nose going towards the head) reflects someone who loves to be of service to other people. Very nice quality. A 'roman nose' (90 degree angle from the base) is often a person who likes to $$ bargain and get special deals. Keep in mind that to read a person correctly, you must evaluate ALL his/her features and not just one. The key to understanding face reading as a tool for personal growth is to understand who we are at a certain time period - and then change ourselves for the POSITIVE using affirmation, meditation, 12-step work, spiritual communion, professional counseling or medication. Whatever our heart tells us will move us forward into the positve action that will attract to us Divine abundance and financial security for ourselves and our families. We can change our destiny at any time. Face Reading is just one introspective indicator. (c) Copyright, Barbara Roberts. December 27, 2011. All rights reserved.