Tuesday, June 13, 2017

How to See Others Clearly - The Inner Track to Understanding

In The Little Prince, Saint-ExupĂ©ry says, “Only with the heart can one see clearly.”

      In opening one’s heart to clearly perceiving what is being communicated by another -  whether it be a spouse, child, or client, many people believe expressing true ‘compassion’ is a matter of absorbing the other person’s pain. Some health practitioners believe that ‘healing’ another is achieved by “merging” with that person’s emotional trauma, anger, guilt or fear. and absorbing their trauma so the suffering person can go ‘free.’ This sounds good, but it does not work. The reason is that there is was no resolution of the trauma within the sufferer. The pain is just duplicated and absorbed within the ‘healer’s’ mind and body. Many of the 10,000 people who have come to my Face Reading classes and sessions are health care practitioners. Some tell me that they have become tired, angry, depressed or overwhelmed and long term have developed severe fatigue or major illnesses. 
      In an attempt to deal with this, some healers have isolated themselves from others - concerned that they have ‘no more to give.’ So this then hampers intimacy within their marriage and/or closeness with their children. Yesterday, I was talking to a seasoned psychotherapist who told me that she felt others were too close in her ‘aura’ and for years had cut herself off from people. When asked about the above, she said YES - her goal is to ‘merge’ with her clients, absorbing their pain. Her habit came from childhood of her mother’s depression and her attempt to help her mother feel better, so that in turn she might feel more secure.
     Achieving balance and having good emotional boundaries is paramount not only in life but especially for health professions. In my Face Reading sessions my goal is to help clients rebalance their lives. Our facial features reveal our strongest inner gifts and our life lessons. 
From the inherent facial features, we can see what is unique for each person…his/her specific tendency to go out of balance - whether it be mentally, emotionally, spiritually, or physically.      
     When I presented my day Workshop for Jenny Craig’s national sales conference, I looked at the 20 managers and identified for each how she could increase her financial and business magnetism by rebalancing whatever aspect was her weak-link.  This is the ultimate goal of Face Reading - reading others clearly - so as to understand their needs (spoken and unspoken), their levels of honesty and integrity, and their true heart’s desires beyond the verbiage they express.   
      Technique of Face Reading and effective compassion: Instead of absorbing someone’s
suffering, using your same heart’s compassionate feeling, your mental focus, and listening ability, pretend you are taking a photo of the client’s essence - his level of conscious awareness, his emotional state, how he expresses it verbally and non-verbally. Your goal is to resonate with
his strivings, emotions, and/or trauma but to keep your good and clear boundaries. Then, taking his photo and opening your tool box skills and using what you can from your training to match his needs. As an artistic role model, I think of Rembrandt’s paintings of great and ordinary people - how he was able to capture their essences and then record them with paint.
     To add to your own self-awareness of your Inner gifts and life lessons, please see my website:facereading1.com. Private (couple) Sessions are available internationally along with my book, Face Reading - How to Know Anyone at a Glance. Let me know how I can be of service to you and your family!

(c) copyright, Barbara Roberts. June, 2017. All rights reserved.